Ask HN: Failing to get a date or into relationship. What can I do to improve?
I will be 30 in 6 months. I used to work long hours ( 12 - 14 hrs ) per day. Hectic schedule, interview preparations, job hunt , study , certifications did hurt my social circle a lot. Lot of my friends broke contacts with me. No surprise, I have never been in a relationship.
I have been trying to find a girl to date in SF ( or bay area ) but so far I have had no luck. I am not very blessed in terms of looks. Due to premature baldness I now shave my head. I go to gym regularly, take care of personal hygiene, smell good.
I have very low social confidence though. In a group I am someone who stays back or doesn't speak too much going overboard.
I have heard that Bay area is one of the difficult area to find women for dating ( arguably , every other person is millionaire but I am not yet )
So I have two fold question -
1. What can I do to improve my social circle. I want to meet as many people as possible and improve my social presence. I am planning Salsa class, joining tennis club.
2. A few times I have had experience that in SF people judge immediately based on looks. What can I do counter such effect ? My accent also has not changed and one can find out in 2 sec. that I am from India.
What can I do so that I can meet many women and a potential date ? Any suggestions ?