I understand the theory. I do not believe that this is the optimal approach in practice.
I can certainly understand that it's not exactly the most pleasant thing to do at times, but I feel as though it's an ideal where the side effects of striving for it are beneficial. It would mean a lot of me to hear your take on it.
It's reasonable to say his personal life should be left out but in your anger you've moved that line to a point where it prevents important information from entering the discussion.