Choosing to interpret clumsiness as "abuse" is EXACTLY the problem he's describing. If "jumping over each other to help her" is inappropriate, then someone needs to describe what is appropriate when the group is trying to go out of their way to welcome someone who isn't the group's usual demographic. It is not OK to label everything they do as abusive without explaining what your standard for good behavior would be.
> Were you doing it because you were nice or because it was a woman and you hoped to get something in return?
And then you accuse him of viewing all women with suspicion. Do you not see the hypocrisy?
> Your whole post is about how sneaky and devious you see women as and how you fear for your safety due to these traits.
Again, stupendously wrong. I think you're twisting his words this way on purpose and it turns my stomach that people are getting away with this.
He's not complaining about "women" being "devious." He's complaining about the poisonous and paranoid culture that is created when certain groups have carte blanche to hang the scarlet letter of "Harassment" on you for God-only-knows what reason.
There is no question we should treat people with respect. But whether they belong to some minority, or some supposedly aggrieved group, DOES NOT MATTER. A person is a person. Isn't that the goal of "equality"?
If there's a way you need other people to act in order for you to feel comfortable, fine, you have every right to tell people what those boundaries of yours are. At the same time though, your comfort zone does not automatically obligate everyone around you to change.