Don't give me money, teach me how to make money. That's like a common saying. In this case, if I ever have a friend that needs to learn to code I think I'd rather point them in directions in which they can become self-taught programmers like myself. Although I am 100% in agreement that they should have bruises before asking questions
I think the moment you give someone clarity after they have been wrangling with a tough problem is very magical. Because they can see the complexity which never comes through in a simple tutorial or demonstration.