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> Do you know what some men do when they find out their wives have been cheating? They beat them. They kill them. They don't just leave. Also, users of Ashley Madison could lose their jobs. You know, their support system that allows them to take care of their kids. Millions of people being revealed for committing adultery isn't anything to rejoice about. This is not the way to handle such a situation.

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And when that happens, it is the man's fault for reacting violently, or if you're particularly callous, the wife's fault for cheating. The person who reveals the truth is quite a ways down the blame list.

It's certainly the abuser's fault. But if you can avoid the situation by literally doing nothing (not leaking the info) then you might have a moral responsibility if you do it. And a lot of people think leaking would be a good thing, but they generally only think of breakups and don't consider violence.

That kind of cowardly pseudoreasoning allows those who are willing to threaten violence to get whatever they want effortlessly.

These are the two points:

  1. Millions of people being revealed for committing
      adultery isn't anything to rejoice about.
  2. This is not the way to handle such a situation.

Neither of these are cowardly, and neither of these give anything to people threatening violence. Outing someone to their abusive partner is clearly morally wrong.

Yeah, those women knew what they were getting into. Not to be callous, but you don't marry someone who would kill you for cheating without knowing somewhere in your heart that's a possibility.

That is more ignorant than callous. It's plain wrong. To go further, abuse is in no way the victim's fault.

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