Sorry if I came off as sounding hostile. I'm sure having the experience of so much attention due to a media campaign is a bit disquieting. I think, when you start bring gender issues into it, you open yourself up for a backlash.

Reading through the non-gender issue parts of the post, you sound like a very nice and hardworking person. So I apologize for my knee-jerk reaction to what I saw as typical male bashing and let's drop the issue ;-)