1,639 karma · joined January 11, 2011
This can get out of hand when circumvention becomes a lifestyle.
I think it can be valuable to see things realistically, and then rejecting what you see.
> I feel angry because you forgot about our coffee date -> I want people to value the feelings of their friends
Are you not angry because you want the person to value YOU and your time? What are these generic "people" and "the feeling of their friends" to you?
> You make me feel guilty when you text me all the time -> I want there to be less pressure on my to respond to your texts
What's the point of this pressure? If you feel guilty for not texting back, isn't there a chance that the other person wants to receive more than they are giving?
> You make me upset when you call other children names -> I want my child to be kind to others
Might the desire sometimes be: As a parent, I don't want to get embarrassed for (as I perceive it) not raising a kind child?
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Being a bit cynical, because the underlying motives might be more useful to solve than the more generic desires.
This is a red flag to me. Of course the tool doesn't guarantee the result, but your story smells of incompetence. I've introduced FP and a focus on types-as-a-tool at the places I've worked and hired accordingly. Quality and speed of development have gone up after minimal time investment. A battle of n=1 I guess?
Yes
If you take away his great play doesn't it just make other players stick out more, and fans would derive happiness from other players?
No
Greatness isn't ONLY about being greater than others.