That's one way to insult someone as a stranded whale.
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That's one way to insult someone as a stranded whale.
They just have to re-align their mindset a little bit.
A good balance is needed when raising children, give them the safety to confide in you, the trust that they can rely on your support and the encouragement to take on the world. Half the time parents and their child spend together over the child's lifetime is in the first 12 years. That's not a lot of time to raise a child and having my daughter for nine years now I can only recommend to spend much more time with them when they are little.
PS: I love you brother's YT channel
More like a Fortunate Son who's an adulterer, felon and burried his ex wife somewhere in the backyard.
You realize that their parenting is likely to have been like that because they have ADHD as well? Financial troubles, drug abuse, forgetting or neglecting your kids and all sorts of spontaneous decisions come with being a parent with ADHD. You won't be able to break this cycle if you don't own your ADHD properly.
> This sounds like a Good Thing, and I'm sure for some people it's a good idea, but in my experience, frontloading this sort of stuff tends to backfire. The problem is that most[0] people don't know how to deal with special needs[1]
This won't count for relationships you can't choose (like in an office) but I don't think I'm an outlier my those around me, but with ADHD you are more likely to have friends and even intimate relationships who also have ADHD or are from an ADHD family. They won't think that you are weird because they already know this behaviour quite well.
Hence the MASSIVE problem of undiagnosed ADHD that can lead into drug abuse just like with my brother who got hooked on speed and heroin, even built a small business on that, not that that was any good in front of the judge...
Estimates on the drug addicted prison population having ADHD are way above the general population, just think they could have been kept from getting into drugs, committing crimes etc if only they had been diagnosed and treated early enough! Same for people who suffer from depression.
But I don't do it purpose, none of us with ADHD do once we loose interest in a project. That's why we keep skipping from one project to the next to keep the thrill up. It looks horrible in my CV.
Sorry, but this is necessary though. Russell Barkley (he has a great Youtube channel) suggests a strict regime for children with ADHD (even with medication) and even as adults will need to inform those closest to us because we work differently. I don't want a free pass, what I need is someone giving me tasks that I can break into smaller pieces and get a feedback loop going for those so I won't loose track or get distracted. Diagnosis is an important step, but it has to follow for most with medication and for all with psychosocial work which can have negative side-effects.
I've written my fair share of far too long ruby methods, 200 lines and more, but those are truly my fault. With a more granular unit test regime those can be prevented.