A good rule of thumb : a son is a son until he gets a wife, but a daughter is a daughter for all her life. This article is a corollary.
2,003 karma · joined January 26, 2018
As root you could also assign the IAM roles to individual users for specific buckets.
The amount of work in your life has now more than effectively doubled- find ways to remove load as quickly as possible . There are laundry, cleaning , food services etc and you should use them to the point of feeling guilty. My wife’s work gave her $4000 in meal kits for our daughters first year driven by her very hard-nosed boss (and former working mom) - we can all emulate her wise example.
Don’t be bullied by parents and family on kids. As others have said their advice is pretty limited to their experience and after a few days may be / may not be helpful. For me the biggest help of grandparents was in keeping the older kids occupied when new arrivals came.
Be careful around water. Accidental drownings are super easy with this set.
Some things I’d do differently :
Get work squared away so you can support mom. If she’s breastfeeding there’s a lot of load she’s going to bear and having work stuff interfere will make you tired and ineffective.
Sleep more. I’ve never been so tired as my first who refused to sleep consistently for three months.
Some super biased thoughts on stuff:
I get every new parent in my life a set of Aden and Anais Muslim swaddle blankets - family, friends , coworkers. Good swaddles make your life so much easier.
Start a college savings fund and tell everyone you’d prefer they contribute to that vs plastic junk. You might get a few takers on something with enduring value.
You are about to get a tsunami of useless crap from lots of well(?)-meaning people in your life. Keep a pretty clear shot for the useless things to go to donate or other parents. 80% of what you receive rounds to useless.
If you see some particular math/ science engagement I’ve found Magic School Bus (books / 90s show/ recent reboot )provides an excellent framing.
The Singapore Math Series helped my daughter rocket a few years ahead of her classmates (your mileage may vary here).
If you are concerned a lot about the road not traveled, ask yourself what you will do if Plan X does not work out. Having a good backup plan can make life altering decisions a little less scary : relationships don't work out, your startup flames out, the things you actually want at 30 aren't what you thought you would want at 30.
My 79 year old mother taught English as a Second Language for 20 years in Kentucky and is pretty bored. She would be happy to help you level up .
I opted for the full ride at State U and had a very good education and a great career graduating with zero debt along with meeting the wonderful woman who became my wife. I owe a lot to State U who in my view invested way more in me than I ever invested back in them.
But State U's credibility only extended within the borders of the state and I ended up, like you described, going out of state to Prestigious U for my PhD. And there was definitely a cost - I did not have the peer education, easily open doors, etc. that would have been there had I turned down State U. I've definitely had moments in my career where doors were closed that would not have been had I opted for the heavier debt, better option.
Whatever you choose if you feel it would help for someone a little closer to your parent's age to make the case for your choice, I'd be happy to do that. I felt no one was able to talk sense to my parents and they were absolutely not listening to me at the time. I've got a lot more notches on my belt and can usually be persuasive however you think the decision should go.
Let me know.
For those unfamiliar with the story (and which might be very useful thinking for enterprising folks in Nigeria):
https://www.wired.co.uk/article/inside-the-clone-factory
Rocket Internet ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rocket_Internet)
To the student body of Germany:
History has taught you nothing if you think you can kill ideas. Tyrants have tried to do that often before, and the ideas have risen up in their might and destroyed them.
You can burn my books and the books of the best minds in Europe, but the ideas in them have seeped through a million channels and will continue to quicken other minds. I gave all the royalties of my books for all time to the German soldiers blinded in the World War with no thought in my heart but love and compassion for the German people.
I acknowledge the grievous complications that have led to your intolerance; all the more do I deplore the injustice and unwisdom of passing on to unborn generations the stigma of your deeds.
Do not imagine that your barbarities to the Jews are unknown here. God sleepeth not, and He will visit His judgment upon you. Better were it for you to have a mill-stone hung around your neck and sink into the sea than to be hated and despised of all men.
https://www.openculture.com/2017/05/helen-keller-writes-a-le...
I can offer a potentially helpful data point. I was on a flight once next to a gentleman who was quite high in his local LDS church (not bishop but next level down?). He railed against porn addiction specifically as the root cause of many sorts of pain, and wished there was a tool just like this to help his flock avoid the porn demon. He worked with quite a few young men who actively struggled and I think a positive tool like this could have helped those guys get what they need. If you are looking for funding, I would definitely consider that a lot of deep pocketed folks are LDS church fathers.
We need something suitably recursive for Hoare.