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Any successful form of trauma treatment will first make it worse, because you open the can of worms and begin to go deep. Unfortunately, many therapists are not very good at explaining that up front. If you only have a few sessions, it is basically guaranteed to make matters worse. That's a sign that it is working (but maybe a sign to switch therapist if it wasn't explained well and cautioned about; making sure the environment and person is ready for it should happen first...).

You can use EMDR both for anchoring positive experiences, as well as to dip into unprocessed traumatic memories. In a typical therapy setting, you do both. Stabilization techniques are in addition to that; vagus nerve stimulation serves to calm down your nervous system, so it would aid the stabilization, so then in turn you can face more of the unprocessed trauma. It's not an either-or. PTSD therapy requires a combination of various elements, tailored to the specific circumstances, history and personality.

The idea to "try it at home" from some YouTube videos is absurd, unfortunately. It may do you good, OK, but it has nothing to do with real EMDR used in a therapeutic setting.

Stabilization is a crucial pillar in order to face the traumatic memories and process them. You cannot face the memories without it; any attempt to do it without stabilization training would be ill-advised; actually, PTSD as diagnosis is "proof" that it's too overwhelming for the patient. The goal is not to "zap" memories but to relax the nervous system and to anchor patients sufficiently in a "safe present" so one can then use techniques such as EMDR/hyponosis etc to unpack the trauma, step by step, without getting flooded and potentially retraumatized.

Even the sensationalist headline talks "merely" about "erasing" PTSD: the stress disorder -- NOT the memories.

Until full processing and integration (which can take years, decades!), traumatic memories are LIVE and unprocessed memories; they are re-experienced as if it was happening NOW; again and again (see e.g.: fMRI studies show that they activate brain regions responsible to process the present, in stark contrast to normal memory recall). This is not comparable to "being reminded about a past event and having strong feelings about it". That is the goal. Not erasure as if nothing ever happened.

It is one of the few forms of PTSD therapy where there is plentyful research about its effectiveness? In Germany, it is basically the only trauma processing technique covered by health insurance, because of its proven track record.

see e.g. Psychological interventions for adult posttraumatic stress disorder: A systematic review of published meta-analyses (2025) https://doi.org/10.1016/j.janxdis.2025.103017

State of the science: Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy (2024) https://doi.org/10.1002/jts.23012

EMDR has been shown in many studies that it can be highly effective also for complex PTSD, see eg. a recent meta-meta-study ( https://doi.org/10.1016/j.janxdis.2025.103017 ). It very much and more depends on the relationship with the therapist, and how they integrate EMDR in a "complete" therapy. EMDR is a technique that can be used in many ways, not a full-fledged form of therapy.

A bit difficult to quote statistics from varying sources without defining what constitutes "violence" (or discussing the wide spectrum of possible definitions).

Leaving an interesting quote:

"For violence to take place, there must be a cognitive process of dehumanisation of the ‘other’ backed up by the narcissistic rage of the traumatised self, in addition to the neurophysiological manifestations of a disrupted attachment system. […] Violence is not an innate biological instinct: it is the manifestation of both our disrupted attachment bonds and our shattered self."

-- Felicity de Zulueta: From Pain to Violence: The Traumatic Roots of Destructiveness (2006)

https://www.traum-und-verantwortung.de/zitate/from-pain-to-v...

I thought it was about foot health, as in "it cannot be healthy to wear shoes all the time". For me any time I can get out of my shoes I feel deep relief and it feels as if my feet can "finally breathe freely again" and I feel "more grounded" if my feet can feel the floor (yes, even with slippers).

"Total number of cases tracked: 189 (including 4 closed cases)"

> secondhand books are generally outdated, undesirable, and/or damaged — do collectors

I buy up to 10 (mostly non-fiction) books on paper a month, always secondhand if available, via bookfinder. You typically get a very accurate description of their state beforehand; I don't mind most levels of use, I actually like it when they have history to them. Markings, notes of previous owners, etc, are all fine for me. Even if one prefers "clean" books there are usually plenty of copies available. I like how it is both much cheaper than new, and even more the reuse aspect.

Nobody is forced to have children. Everybody knows what it requires. Yes, society should care more for the next generation and support parents.

Giving children drugs to calm them down is child abuse. Plain and simple.

What I see is kafkaesque character assassination and psychological violence against government employees and institutions for profit reasons, with then the additional violence of blaming the victims. I tie you to a chair and then complain that you're not doing your job right.

You can even get full 'root' on a virtual machine for that price, and plenty of webhosting options.

https://lowendbox.com/blog/2-usd-vps-cheap-vps-under-2-month...

For many years now I've been hosting my IRC bouncer on a $13/yr VPS at netcup and it has been more stable than some of my other VPSes.

Hate to admit but Apple Mail is the only one I know that has fast (albeit simple) local search even for large mailboxes.

So, what you're saying is the equivalent of "plants don't grow in nature, they grow in greenhouses"? I don't see how what you're stating contradicts the author.

(My original reply to this was flagged for some reason. I don't see how it can be seen as a violation of HN guidelines to explain how I arrive at my personal opinion.)

"Psychological violence is the use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the intent to harm somebody mentally or emotionally or to exert control over somebody." (WHO)

For example, neglect is nowadays typically included in a definition of psychological and emotional violence, also on legal levels (domestic violence, childcare).

I consider it to be psychological violence, causing harm on a mental level.

I bet a study comparing sites with dark patterns to sites using the HCI studies for what they were meant for will show that dark patterns cause stress on various measurable levels, which is simply harmful to an organism.

If done on purpose, is is a deliberate form of causing harm to others. Death by a thousand papercuts. Just because we are so used to treating each other violently every day, we can still call it by its name and identify it as ultimately damaging. I would not be surprised if it was a contributing factor to cancers, for example. Yes, miniscule, but still.

By calling it out as violence, I am not saying that there are no worse forms of violence.

What makes it so that some people/cultures seem to value age over anything else? If their lives continue to be miserable, broken inside, violent temper thanks to being treated like a slave, a long life to me sounds more like a punishment than a goal.

It's basically a religious war. One side seems to think they need to "break people's spirit" by "work camps", the other side seems to believe in "healing from violence" by compassion. You're free to pick your side, but it's going to get harder to switch, and the other side will treat you as their enemy.

No clearly labeled pricing link or mention of how much it costs. Stop decepting people like that and simply tell them what they obviously want to know, that is the best marketing you can do. Dark patterns are violence towards other human beings. Thank you.

Otherwise it looks great, but that turned me away. Yes, I know Apple forces you into transparency about it on the app store, but I don't buy products from companies that employ these patterns.

Not their legal situation, but it turns a downloader into a distributor who may not be aware of the potential legal consequences.

You can read ALL of them for free at the source, handelsregister.de - they stopped charging for access in 2022.

> German filings are notoriously opaque vs Europe or UK.

German company filings (for-profit and non-profit) are public at the registry of commerce (Handelsregister) but not easy to parse.

"Musk has fathered fourteen children, one of whom died as an infant. He had six children with his first wife, Canadian author Justine Wilson, who he met while attending Queen's University in Ontario, Canada; they married in 2000. In 2002, their first child Nevada Musk died of sudden infant death syndrome at the age of 10 weeks."

"One of world’s richest man Elon Musk’s kids does not want to be related to their biological father anymore. Born a boy, Xavier Alexander Musk, has filed a plea seeking a change in her name in accordance with her new gender identity. Xavier had filed the petition seeking both a name change and a new birth certificate that reflects her new gender identity with the Los Angeles County Superior Court in Santa Monica in April 2022.

The reason for the name change in the documents is mentioned as “Gender Identity and the fact that I no longer live with or wish to be related to my biological father in any way, shape or form.”"

"Elon’s father Errol Musk fathered two children with his former stepdaughter, Jana Bezuidenhout, who is 41 years his junior."

"n a recent podcast interview, Errol Musk said his son Elon had not “been a good dad” to his children."

“He was such a terrible human being,” Elon, 46, told the magazine. “You have no idea.”

Elon added: “My dad will have a carefully thought-out plan of evil… He will plan evil.”

“You have no idea about how bad. Almost every crime you can possibly think of, he has done,” Elon said, though he never went into specifics about what his father allegedly did. “Almost every evil thing you could possibly think of, he has done… It’s so terrible, you can’t believe it.”

“It would certainly be accurate to say that I did not have a good childhood… It may sound good. It was not absent of good, but it was not a happy childhood. It was like misery.”

"One does see a mother turning the children against the father successfully. "

"It's thought Grimes is keen to move in with the mothers of Musk's other children and raise them all together in one big house, however, most recently she's hit out at her billionaire ex publicly about his parenting.

"Plz respond about our child's medical crisis. I am sorry to do this publicly but it is no longer acceptable to ignore this situation. This requires immediate attention", she wrote on X.

"If you don't want to talk to me can you please designate or hire someone who can so that we can move forward on solving this. This is urgent, Elon.""

"The death of human empathy is one of the earliest and most telling signs of a culture about to fall into barbarism." - Hannah Arendt

I am quoting an obviously broken and severely traumatized person in power, in the context of ongoing and upcoming civic freedoms decline.

“The fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy. The empathy exploit—they’re exploiting a bug in western civilization, which is the empathy response” -- Elon Musk

No more questions.

If you're like me and want to keep the OS setting intact but not have it affect web sites, add the following preference in Firefox: ui.prefersReducedMotion (0 = no, 1 = yes).

"You pretend you feel it. You don't."

Plenty of research out there that investigates and shows nervous system/heart beat co-/dys-regulation amongst strangers. Not that I need any of that to know how I am feeling with others, totally random strangers. I cannot turn it off. Oh boy, I often wish I could. You can choose not to believe me, sure, I'm just inventing this to lie to your face for the kick of it. Or you can choose to look at the research. Or actually experience it for yourself, e.g. in a NVC practice course.

According to Dorsey, they didn't want to block Trump, they caved in to advertiser requests.

"But [the Trump ban] was right for the business, because if we didn’t act on it, we probably would have lost all our advertisers, which would affect the business and stock price. But it was wrong for the world and the internet, given the fact that we could do it in the first place. No one should be able to do that."

https://www.piratewires.com/p/interview-with-jack-dorsey-mik...

Aren't they still, or rather, almost completely dead and gone?

“But Next Level continuously and willfully spreads its false narrative that it created and owns Skibidi Toilet-related copyrights, and is using its knowledge of YouTube’s DMCA Takedown Notice policy, including its ‘multiple strikes’ policy, to hold legitimate Skibidi Toilet content hostage—unless Invisible Narratives pays Next Level a hefty ransom,” lawyers wrote. […]

“We want creators to play with our IP,” Goodman said. “We want to make sure that people are doing things, obviously within reason, so long as it kind of follows a certain guideline for us.” For instance, there’s a bunch of games on Roblox — Skibidi Toilet Tycoon has 84.6 million lifetime visits — that use the Skibidi Toilet IP. Next Level’s approach, clearly, is not within reason, likely due to the domain squatting, the game, and the copyright and trademark threats combined."

Or possibly even more effective!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Subliminal_stimuli