I know what you're saying but it isn't true. Let's look at 2 examples, the LGBT community and Feminism.
LGBT celebrates its differences. It welcomes everyone. It is open minded and tolerant.
Feminism bullies, ridicules, excludes, creates us/them divides and is continually hypocritical.
You could not have 2 more different different approaches. You don't need to be a bully. You don't need to threaten or ridicule or divide.
A few (repeated examples) to highlight my point. Matt Taylor bullied by large numbers of feminists for wearing a shirt designed by a woman, showing women wearing bikinis. Do women wear bikinis? Yes. Yet, he was mercilessly attacked by at least 10,000 radicals.
Domestic violence. It's repeatedly reported as a man thing (note: someone close to me was stabbed by his wife while she was high on drugs - but it wasn't domestic violence.. As the media says, that's only a man thing). Also note the absence of mental abuse that goes almost ignored.
Code.org who didn't bother to put a link to encourage boys, but explicitly put one to encourage girls on their main page. This was no accident - they have a quota to meet, apparently at any cost. Mind you, this could equally be attributed to political correctness.
I greatly respect how the LGBT community has embraced most people to support their cause without alienating anyone or demanding ridiculous quotas. I am totally gay friendly. Yet, I strongly oppose feminism. I believe in equality, but not equality for one gender or skin colour or sexual orientation.
I respect movements that embrace differences rather than reject them. Bullying is not required.