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I have UC. I've been experimenting with diet for 2 years now. If this current diet fails, I'll just have to give up.

Sure, lots of folks won't change how they eat. But some people really are making radical changes to their diet and still seeing flare-ups.

Gosh, I hope so. I have UC (ulcerative colitis), and my quality of life can vary wildly depending on flare-ups. It's a pretty brutal condition, and a horrible way to live if the disease isn't well-managed by meds or other therapies.

The UX changes every other month it seems, which is upsetting and jarring every time. Lately, the app keeps forcing me to update my password which is annoying. I miss the heart button. Why would they remove it?

I never like spotify's "for you" playlists.

In theravada buddhism, this is called applying the faculty of wise attention. We have zero control over our thoughts, but we have control over the object of our attention (and it improves with practice).

When unpleasant thoughts arise, the (canonical Buddhist) strategy is to move your attention to something (anything!) else.

Using mantra (prayer) or force of will ("I close my attention to this thought") are both applications of the technique.

Oh this is the worst thing that could happen to any parent, but the writing was beautiful and so moving. Thank you for sharing. I am feeling such a great sympathetic grief but also great awe at how palpable the love and care is in this writing.

I can see no benefit at all to having children in this day. Parents are expected to engage with their child at all times, and it's no longer socially acceptable to let a child roam the neighborhood as it was when I was a kid. In the US, job insecurity and ridiculous costs of living make having a child a financial burden.

The pure physical risk of birth in a healthcare system that does not support postpartum healthcare in any way does not seem worth it.

Remember those very dramatic warnings before movie trailers equating piracy to real-world theft (You wouldn't steal a car; you wouldn't rob a bank; piracy is a crime...)? Seems laughable now.

> A burning question in my mind: how does one get motivated to work on something that they'll probably not even live to see come to fruition/failure? Personally, I wouldn't be, unless if there was some pay involved.

"The wise man plants a tree whose shade only his grandchildren will enjoy."

Some humans are capable of great compassion for the people who will come after us. That is the impetus to create a better world for our children's children (even those of us who don't even have children).

Compassion. Concern for the well-being of the people who will inherit the world when we are gone. Empathy combined with a sense of duty. Some people have those qualities innately. Many people don't.

Wow! Well this explains why carrot tastes like soap to me too, but no one ever talks about soapy carrot flavor!

As another comment said, I'm guessing on the taste of paint thinner from its smell.

I'll eat it in specific contexts: chinichurri and salsa verde, which have sufficient garlic to mask the taste. But I do feel a bit wistful that I can't truly enjoy it.

There must be. I posted a similar comment. I can't stand the taste of celery (tastes like grass and paint$ or cilantro (tastes like soap), and carrots also have a hint of soapy taste to my palate. Otherwise, I love all vegetables and cook often.

Perhaps there is a generic situation at play? Cilantro to me tastes like soap, and celery to me tastes like grass mixed with paint thinner. I can't tolerate it in any form.

But I love to cook and adore every other vegetable. Just celery and cilantro are abhorrent to my palate.

This title made me laugh. Life is very short and very precious. Being a "quitter" is not a bad thing. Take ownership of your precious time when you are on a path that is not working for you.

The human condition is to constantly fight the unpredictable nature of the universe. Too hard to accept that we can die at any moment (at the end of this week, this day, this sentence even), and so we attempt to create order in the universe by assigning meaning to things which are inherently random, like the number and shape of holes in cheese.

I don't love this, but I don't disagree at all. I think many men underestimate just how much women crave and seek out beauty. Not just within themselves, but within the world. Men who have a similar eye for beauty are irresistible to a certain kind of woman.

I just discovered some parisian carrots in my garden months after my last harvest!! Hardy little guys.

You know, with my mom being a single mom, I think there is something of an interdependency between her and her youngest child (my sister). Possibly even a codependency. That is to say: there is no real power struggle between them. They accept their roles as mother and daughter pretty well. They share their space effectively because they both accept their roles. If my sister were to exert more of a commanding influence on the household, there could be conflict, but so far this has not been the case.

You sound like a compassionate and thoughtful person! I think I have just had the misfortune of being exposed to a lot of people with less consideration.

This is a bit bluntly stated, but I agree wholeheartedly. I am an introvert who enjoys social interaction occasionally, but it must be meaningful in order not to be a draining experience.

I have often felt like the nectar for a hungry extravert to feed on, and when they are done with me, it turns out they never actually cared about ~me~; they just needed to feed on the social interaction with me to gain energy for themselves. I was just a means to an end for them.

As an introvert who craves meaningful connection, I have found myself being used and drained by extraverts countless times. I am as a consequence very wary of them.

I live in a college town in upstate New York. Almost everyone I know with a child homeschools their child. Almost all of these kids are part of homeschool collectives. These kids are remarkably bright, socially well-adjusted, and most of their programs involve a strong environmental component.

If I ever have a kid, I will absolutely homeschool them.

Yep. My mom would be happy for her and any future husband to raise their kids in her house if my sister chose not to move out.

This is just unthinkable to me. It seems so cruel, too. I'm the child of an immigrant and the expectation was always: "live at home as long as you need, even if it's forever."

And especially once adult children have their own children, it seems unthinkable to have a baby and a recovering mother in the house without help from grandmother and aunts.

My sister is a young millennial in her late 20s and lives at home with our mom. They live in Los Angeles. My sister will likely NEVER be able to afford to buy a house in Los Angeles, and there is no sense in paying rent when our mom is happy for the company.

My mom is an immigrant, and she has always welcomed her adult children to live with her (even to the point of insistence). I fully expect to go live with her when she reaches her elderly years. I'm even kind of looking forward to it. I live across the country from my whole family and this has been a very isolating experience, even if it was my choice to do so.

I don't think it is weird for adults to live with their family. I actually think it's weirder and more unnatural NOT to live near or close to your family.

This comment made me chuckle. Because I am a sober alcoholic. One of the things I remind myself all the time is: "It's wonderful that people can enjoy alcohol in moderation. I am not one of them."

The point of the article is that those hundreds of thousands of dollars are NOT disposable income -- they are life savings and home equity loans. What a callous comment.

it's the exact same email, only with "googlemail.com" as the extension.

I can't understand why people don't apologize when they are wrong. It's not like people forget what you have said if you never admit your fault. Especially when you are a leader, admitting fault only makes people like you more.

I recently quit a dev job because the project manager micromanaged everything (among other reasons). In that job I was treated as a set of hands to execute someone else's vision and nothing more. No one ever said to me "figure it out", even though that is my number one skill as a developer, and that is the part of my job that I love the most.

Thank you for sharing this anecdote. It has helped me understand the management style I prefer.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I'm glad there is at least one family member there for you.