If you're already living together; it doesn't change much of anything.
Except if it doesn't work out she gets a lot of your shit.
Marriage was a walk in the park; but kids was where it started to get difficult.
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Except if it doesn't work out she gets a lot of your shit.
Marriage was a walk in the park; but kids was where it started to get difficult.
You're working too much, of course you're exhausted!
Many developers don't live to work. Those who do may not be great parents; or aren't interested in it at all. It's not hard to do; and still stay relevant and current.
In fact, I could care less about it. I actively despise computers from 5pm - 8am.
Most suburban school districts far excel urban ones.
That's nice considering daycares have a minimum age requirement before you can start leaving a child to go back to work.
Most of the first few months are spent sleeping.
Perhaps they should have said "remote work while child is 0-6 months".
Honestly, a flexible remote schedule is just something I'd be willing to change jobs for right now. When kids get sick and I have the follow the same vacation/PTO policy as hourly people here; I begin to despise my HR department.
Explaining the concept to my 4-year-old daughter was fun, and is trusted enough to execute these processes in a timely manner (without killing someone).
Your schedule seems about right. There's definitely worse ones out there. Assuming you have young kids, they will become more independent with time to allow you to have time back for yourself.
My schedule is nearly identical; although I do have to admit I'm about an hour later than you for everything.
To become a semi-successful parent (is that even a thing? We'll see in 18 years) who still gets shit done I've learned to simply utilize every idle moment. It allows me about an hour of extra time for something during the weekdays, and makes my weekends more efficient. I tend to sacrifice my own sleep when I really need more time for something and it usually works out okay, as long as I don't make it a habit for the week (or I'll feel sick, tired, or just unwilling to over-perform).
Right now, I'm going through a home renovation, so the process is slow but it's considered my "side-project". The nice thing about it is that I can involve my kids in it to keep them occupied and still get a little bit of something done.
For keeping up with tech, my pace at work is slow enough that I can continuously evolve the software I write with new technologies and best practices. Before I started where I'm at, I was at a much more fast-pace place which was fun and exciting; but absolutely damning to my home life because of all the other stuff I've got going on. (And nothing angers Mrs. and Kids more than coming home at 8 or 9pm frequently).
Perhaps the move will be towards specialty stores; as these may be the only competition Amazon may have.
They could immediately compete if they offered same-day deliveries ala what Amazon does in certain premium (read: not yours) markets; except for most of America. Branded cars delivering groceries and goods same-day to 90+% of America would be a slam-dunk; and something that would take Amazon years to compete with. Considering all the cash these kinds of companies swim in, it seems like a no-brainer to me. Easy enough for the pizza companies, anyway.
In fact, there's already one local grocery chain offering delivery (and free even, when you spend > $X). To my knowledge, this is becoming more and more popular across the US.
Would you feel the same way if the rating system was right there in-store on a tag?
I understand taking the ratings as a deciding factor; but when I buy odd-things I'm no expert on; I tend to go with gut and middle-of-the-road and I'm hardly disappointed. But that's something I learned from shopping at brick-and-mortar.
For my family, I'm happy I didn't go down that route. Seems like the most successful tend to be crazy.
It IS about time at this point. But that's more of my own choice as to what I choose to do outside of 9-5. As my children get older, and less is demanded from me 24/7, I'm sure I'll find a happy balance as a "un-professional" musician.
I spent my first 5 years of life there.
Never knew anything was wrong with it until people who've never been to one told me.
Ah, to be a child...
So I went to school for music. Some might say Music Education but I never really considered it, honestly, until it was too late.
I placed myself in a highly competitive school with some of the best musicians in the world as roommates.
I thought it would push me, I thought I had enough drive, but apparently my imposter syndrome was too great. That's another story though.
Short story; it didn't work out. I lived a little and had some part time jobs until I forced myself into a situation of coding. It worked out great though, because my imposter syndrome is pretty much entirely gone (even in a new industry - ! - which I taught myself into), I have a wonderful family and great kids. Development was something I could pick up easily that also allowed me to be somewhat creative in the capacity that music allows.
But it's just something I do. It isn't who I am. I'd tell you who I am but I tend to question that more and more these days. And I change. People change.
Across the US, even in major cities, most residences don't actually have a "choice" in their provider.
Something I recently learned when one of our renters tried to get Satellite services in a heavily-wooded area.
Then when Spectrum bought them out the mid tier disappeared; oh, and prices went up.
I feel this is the case more and more...
There are even requests around the geographical region, which I consider if I hadn't had a family and mortgage.
I can utilize all the cutting-edge technologies developers on the coasts think they're privy to, too.
This flyover mentality gets me so worked up. It's really from a pre-internet era.
I can see your argument for doing so in another country (relocation, other added expenses vs. U-Haul across the country), but I'm making the assumption there's more than one fruit farmer there, too.
Every 5 or 10 years an entirely new development emerges.
Any hindrance occurs to municipalities without room to grow. And for city zoning, it doesn't appear they have an issue "building up" instead of out.