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And they've been orders of magnitude more responsive about problems with utilities, plumbing, appliances, etc. They care. And they form human relationships with their tenants. It's not just about "having an eye on you".
The former care a lot about keeping their properties in good condition (after all, they live there, and typically the home is part of their nest egg). I've never known an occupant landlord to ignore a leak. Keeping the building pest-free is as important to them as to you. They want to maintain friendly relationships with the people they share walls and floors and ceilings with, and put time and effort into selecting tenants (your neighbors) who will be considerate.
I've ended up becoming good friends with most of those landlords as well as with the other tenants in those buildings. One elder landlord has become like an uncle to me. I've always been reluctant to move from those apartments until forced to by unrelated circumstances
The latter care about upkeep and maintenance only to the degree that it will keep the apartment rentable. Between tenants, they'll patch over any visible issues. When selecting tenants, they care only about the likelihood they'll pay rent on time, won't smash the walls with sledgehammers, and won't cause frequent law enforcement visits. You'll get neighbors who are loud or rude or steal your packages from the mail room. They pay lip service to pest control, and if you're lucky they'll cover the cost of sending an exterminator out once a month (better hope you're home to let them in). I've never wanted to stay in such an apartment once my lease was up.
A lot of this stuff varies state by state.
Few of our cities are actually evacuable in an emergency.
And I say that as someone who is generally pro-union.
I find this challenging too. Any suggestions from other pessimists/skeptics for presenting a more positive outlook?
In a legacy codebase, even the smallest change can introduce all sorts of problems; and a small change to output or business logic can require disproportionately large changes to code. They may simply have determined that finishing the feature changes they think they need for their business to survive is more important than protecting against exploits that they consider either unlikely or low-value.
And how acceptable this is may depend in large part on what the service in question is and how broadly it's used. The lack of concern you describe would be totally unacceptable from a bank or even Twitter, but perhaps excusable (at this stage) from an early stage company trying to build the next Twitter.
For instance, the "standard" (TV broadcaster) accent originated in areas settled largely by German and Scandinavian immigrants. The "New York" and "New Jersey" accents have elements of Irish and Italian and Yiddish accents, and New York accents were influential due to being common among entertainers through the middle of the 20th century.
And accents can evolve quickly. The New York accent you'll hear in films from the 1950s is very different from the one you'll hear today if you go deep enough into Queens to find strong accents.
That said, IMO moderate Scottish accents sound extremely similar to the "standard" American accent. I think it's actually that the cadences are very similar, which for me at least is what makes other strong British accents (other than RP) often difficult to understand.
Girls are exposed from a young age to overt and covert suggestions that their value is in their reproductive appeal and reproductive potential. Women who don't have children are constantly questioned about it; treated as "less than"; and perceived as having something wrong with them. Women who don't want children are perceived as subversive. (We put some of these same pressures on men, but it's perceived as "normal" for men not to want children.)
And then the burden of childbearing and childrearing falls more heavily on women than on men.
So it's unsurprising that a lot of women have children and then regret it. What's infuriating is that the same pressures and stupid norms that push women into having children for the wrong reasons are the same ones that prevent them from speaking up about it and warning others once they realize they have.