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userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
The cheap trick is to buy your competitors
userinanother··on YouTube's Anti-Adblock and uBlock Origin
Yeah but what percentage of subscription costs go to paying creators?
userinanother··on YouTube's Anti-Adblock and uBlock Origin
Especially considering that YouTube gets the content for almost free
userinanother··on A fourth of U.S. health visits now delivered by non-physicians
Don’t go to a teaching hospital that’s always a mistake unless you have some really abnormal problem
userinanother··on A fourth of U.S. health visits now delivered by non-physicians
Did congress fix the pipeline problem? Seems like no
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Dating isn’t an interview. It can be but it doesn’t have to be. The less of a formal interview it is the more you get a taste for if you like hanging out with the person.
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
You develop an eye for it eventually. Some people unavailable, some are just not interested that night, some are hostile. These things change through the night so someone that was hostile earlier might warm up or become friendly over time. The body language is Usally a good tell.

They are also other signs that hint towards compatibility such as wealth, class, education, social anxiety you get a feel for it over time. I would trust that over what you see in a profile. Not that you can’t lie on those just that it’s much harder. Plus The dark things people tell you after a drink or 2 would often be enough to get one cancelled off the internet.

Also keep in mind that a lot of people screened themselves out just by not going out. All those gals that don’t have anything money, live with their parents and go to bed at 9 or have no friends. You won’t find them at the bar but on tinder you might

userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
It’s kind of annoying I’m better friends with the moms of my kids friends than I am the dads. The dads want nothing to do with other dads but the moms are friendly and we chat way more. Even the dads that should be a great friend match we just never seem to make time for each other.

All my male friends are either from college or work, and like you said they tend to forget you if you don’t follow up.

userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Umm have you seen pictures of what a share cropper looked like during the depression? Not much dissimilar to a concentration camp survivor
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
A movie about unexceptional people doing unexceptional things? Nope can’t think of many movies that would have that. Exceptional people tend to be egotistical assholes that take extreme risks and they make movies about the ones that succeed or fail spectacularly
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Not limited to males. Most people have poor capacity for introspection and self improvement
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
The average kind of sucks for everyone. Being average single is a lot better than average income family. Raising your average family of 4 on an average 61k salary just seems like hell in any major metro. Better just Netflix and seek other validation.
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Yeah but they will fail because they stuck at marketing. It’s like business sometimes you have the right product but you just can’t get it in front of your customers so they actually buy it
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Yeah but would you date/marry a house husband? If you are earning big bucks you kind of need someone to stay home and take care of the kids/house/laundry/dinner etc. For one most mothers never trained their boys for that role but even if some did would you seek that man out for dating? I would guess not, so it’s an adverse selection problem with adverse results
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
The age math sucks for women too. If she wants a career she has a short window to get experience and find a spouse before she gets pregnant.

If she wants a doctorate she has to be married before she enters the workforce.

She has time for maybe 1-3 long term relationships before she ages out of childbearing age.

So yes women have more options but they also have less time to pick the right one.

userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
That’s because tinder makes them think that those people are in their dating pool. In reality those men will happily sleep with them like they did with the 50 other women but aren’t interested in more.

Also 200k is the new 6 figures, 100k doesn’t cut it anymore

userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
People who have failed at relationships by 35 probably also bad at them or have other negative qualities. The pool isn’t great for men or women.
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
It is damn near impossible to buy high quality frozen food. It’s like they is no market for it. If it’s frozen it’s made with the shittiest low quality low effort process. I know high quality food can be frozen because I make it all the time but I can’t buy it
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
It’s actually a high effort app trying to pass as a low effort app. The worst of both worlds
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
As a straight male I’ve always found dating men for friendship was a lot harder than dating women
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Higher effort threshold yields less competition.
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
The volume in the bar is a lot higher than you would expect. On a good night I could hit 3-4 bars with 50-100 people each. Easily screen off most, and talk to say 5-10. I’m by no means attractive but I could Usually get a number and convert 1/3 or 1/4 into a date. The difference is that I didn’t have to swipe on the bulk of the candidates I rejected but also that those initially rejected still had a chance if a positive interaction happened.

Compare that to 50 per day out of a pretty poor pool and stiff competition and your odds are not looking great.

userinanother··on New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed
CPS has had massive overreach in power. Somehow they are now both able to make life difficult for decent parents and are just as bad or worse at protecting at risk youth. I think they probably realized that they would have an easier time going after struggling but generally decent parents vs going after complete degenerates.
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
Depends on your interests… If your interest is FPS gaming and you are a straight male it’s probably not a good spot. If you have an interest in sewing then maybe odds are you your favor. Still just common interests isn’t enough dating takes active effort like work it does not magically happen for most
userinanother··on 'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
It works because you can do high volume screening quickly. In theory online dating was supposed to speed that up even more increasing volume and improving results. Unfortunately the online screening was too fast and you end up over screening and throwing away too many potential matches and selecting bad candidates because Most people aren’t actually sure what they want.
userinanother··on US student, 14, wins award for developing soap to treat skin cancer
Why not just mix sunscreen ingredients in soap? Then you would be providing some minimal protection all the time. It’s not super effective but you can make claims that it protects against the sun.
userinanother··on New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed
The actual risk has changed. The risk vector is different though. Where before the risk was from a predator, now the risk is from a “Karen” calling CPS on you as well as the social costs of other people judging you as a bad parent.
userinanother··on Let me tell you about me Gear Fabrication Syndrome
GAS can be very economical if you buy used high end gear. If like me you change hobbies every 2-3 years you can sell the high end gear for what you bought it for. GFS is much more expensive as your custom built stuff has very little resale value, even if acquisition costs originally were cheaper the resale is Usally a fraction of cost.
userinanother··on Ford hits the brakes on $12B in EV spending
Safety standards, lawsuits and a generally unfavorable trade environment
userinanother··on Ford hits the brakes on $12B in EV spending
Evs are great fun toys that I would absolutely recommend to anyone that can afford them and lives in a 2 car household. They are not currently an acceptable replacement for an ICE car in the United States due to infrastructure problems. I would bet we need 10-15 years to get that to an acceptable state
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