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There are plenty of people who are happy to live in Nebraska. Warren Buffet is happy in Nebraska. You think you're too good for it or something?

Yeah, either be worth a couple million, or buy property in a smaller city or town. If said city or town is lame, make it better. We live in one of the biggest countries in the world. You don't have to live in SF or Manhattan, nor are you entitled to.

>it's better for both those kids and for everyone else to have education tailored to those kids' needs

OK so who provides that?

So the problem is that people feel entitled to live in places they can't afford to live, because they can't deal with the "boredom" of suburbs or smaller cities/towns?

Cry me a river.

The overall point is that there isn't a 1:1 correlation between time and productivity in this industry as there is in, say, working a cash register.

I might spend a couple of hours trying to debug something screwy with my dev environment, or googling around and thinking about what the solution to a problem, that doesn't create more tech debt, should look like. I might spend time dealing with feedback in code review, some of which may be beyond the scope of the story or not immediately perceptible by a stakeholder, but it's work that needs to be done nonetheless. Project managers are not developers for the most part, so they have to trust me on that.

When you hire someone to do tasks that you could do yourself, then asking them to log time is reasonable since you know what needs to be done and what the timeframe should look like. Asking a highly skilled employee such as a software developer to log time is an insult to their judgment and a waste of their (and your) time. You can't gauge my productivity from a time log.

This quibbling over the term 'abuse', like we should all just be thankful we're not sex slaves or PHP devs and leave it at that, is completely irrelevant. Fine, it's not abuse. It's just antagonistically treating your employees like untrustworthy delinquents. Is that better?

I have no idea why they would care what someone unconnected would think. But the way this has been publicised sure makes it seem like they care, so here we are discussing it.

What do you mean "against all odds"? Unless you're connected with this personally, all you have to go on is their internal investigation, which did not mention rape. So apparently no one is even claiming that anymore.

Again, they can either turn this over to the police, or I'm going to assume it's all made up and I'm not going to care. Not that my opinion is worth any more than yours, which is to say it doesn't matter at all.

I heard he raped or sexually assaulted someone. Someone wrote "a rapist lives here" outside his window.

If he did rape someone, no due process means we're treating rape as a mere HR issue, and he's free to go rape more people.

If he did not rape someone, then at least some of the allegations being thrown around are false. No due process means that someone unconnected with this may reasonably assume all of it is false.

Why not?

I'm not married to my son's mom yet. We just haven't gotten around to it because:

we're not religious

marriage as an institution just doesn't mean much to us outside tax/other legal benefits

proper weddings, then kind you can invite extended family to, are prohibitively expensive

our son is developing just fine without us being married

We'll get around to it eventually, maybe. It's just not a priority right now.

It's not unheard of to have people in your extended network who you would rather not have alerted to your whereabouts. Examples: abusive ex, clingy co-worker, mother in law, etc. "Enemy" is a rather melodramatic term but you get the idea.

Can you point to an example in the parent post where such language is used? I'm not seeing anywhere saying "I would miss entitlements x, y, and z".

I live in a "legit" Chicago neighborhood. There are plenty of taxis and sirens around. OP's comparison isn't that far off. Definitely looking forward to living in suburban house someday. IMO apartments suck and city living is overrated. I do like not having a car though.

Just be good at your job and ignore the bullshit. Go home at 5. Has worked for me so far. Maybe I'm not a good cultural fit or whatever, but that's ok. Can't please everyone.

Part of "white privilege" is not having to give a shit about race. Race isn't a problem for white people, and there's nothing to be gained (but potentially much to lose) from them engaging in pre-loaded conversations about it. Live life, be happy, and shut the fuck up when your input isn't wanted.

If I'm going to get anything out of a lecture, I need to be able to effectively take notes on it. To do that, I need to be able to parse an hierarchy of concepts, aka an outline. You know:

I. Blah A. Sub-blah 1 B. Sub-blah 2 II. Foobar A. Sub-foobar 1

etc. If I can't determine how to organize my notes, then it's not really a lecture. It's just someone talking haphazardly about something they know way more about than I do. If they're introducing any concepts that I'm not already familiar with, I'll be lost pretty quickly.

This isn't a huge ask is it? I don't need an explicit outline written on the board for me. All I need is a little recognizable organization, and I can figure it out from there. Otherwise, I'm usually better served by reading a good textbook.

The hardest class I ever had in school wasn't hard because of the material, it was hard because there was no textbook and the lectures were extremely disorganized, just random ideas that weren't linked together in any obvious way. There's no need for that.

What do you do for a living, and how is it making the world a better place?

I used to work as a telemarketer because there was a recession on and that was the only job I could find after months of looking. I was literally a couple weeks away from being homeless, so I wasn't much inclined to care if I was causing hassle. It's legal, there's a market for it, and I need to eat.

If it makes you feel better about yourself to shit on your economic inferiors, you go right ahead. But if you think you're teaching that telemarketer a lesson or somehow punishing them, you're not. They won't even remember you at the end of the day. You are one of 100+ calls that telemarketer has to make every day. And if you don't say the magic words "please take my name off your list", they will call you again next week. So you're really just wasting your own time.

Insulting to whom? He just likes the one quote more than the other. There's nothing more to be read into it.

"You are responsible for your own choices" is just as much of a religious philosophy as "pain and suffering are part of the human condition". Both are non-empirical, irrational expressions of your personal observations and beliefs.

>whats stopping you from putting in another couple extra hours to deliver even more value to the company?

Probably the same thing stopping my employer from putting in another couple thousand dollars to deliver even more value to my paycheck?

Because the fact that I'm distant cousins with a pine tree, while compelling, is inherently meaningless. Science is a method for achieving a better understanding of the empirical world, but it doesn't begin to address crucial parts of lived experience such as:

What is my place within my community?

What is the point of me being alive right now?

What is 'good'?

Stuff like that. I'm sure you could come up with science-y answers for these questions, but those answers would ultimately be yours, subject to your own experience and judgement. There's no empirical, scientifically objective way to approach these things. That's why religion is still a thing, and why we need stories.

You are worried about the same things, just to different degrees. Both of you depend on selling your time and skills for a paycheck.

A hot dog vendor might make less than you do, but their income depends on leveraging their assets and selling a product. The hot dog vendor is middle class, you are working class. Income isn't really part of the equation.

Of course, that's the strict traditional definition of middle class. Maybe that has changed.

You don't know what you're talking about either though.

I think he's criticizing your idea that:

>There's no more room for debate on such issues.

There is always room for debate on any issue. It might be a one-sided debate, but you're clearly implying that the debate should be suppressed, which is absurd.

If it's for defacing property, sure. That should be punished. But I'm not cool with punishing people for expressing an idea. Lots of people believe things that I strongly disagree with, or even find deplorable/offensive/vile/whatever. I acknowledge my difference of opinion and get on with my life without acting like a crybaby. That's part of being an adult.

Free speech is more important than your feelings, or mine. This might not be a popular opinion anymore, but I don't think anybody should be kicked out of school just for drawing a swastika, or saying anti-semitic or racist things.

And sales engineers, which the author has apparently never heard of.

He didn't say any of those things are related to suicide, they're just examples of gender disparity. I don't know much about MRA or red pill, but my guess is that you're committing an association fallacy here.

Uh, what part of that comment is unrelated nonsense? Seemed pretty related and sensical to me.

The "beer test" thing is really sad. Like, why do people require their co-workers to hang out with them in their off hours? Friendship is supposed to be voluntary; don't they have friends of their own?

I've never been exposed to this side of math, do you have any book recommendations?

Seriously, parents are complaining about 10-20 min of homework a night? Kids should be spending 1-2 hrs on homework every night, and if they run out of homework they should be working on a personal project or reading. That doesn't have to encroach on their fun time; I'm talking about 2 hrs max. Every night. That's not asking a lot.

It's about learning how to manage your time and developing a productive routine. Kids will be expected to do plenty of homework once they get to college, I don't see the point in not assigning it before then.

It make a huge difference whether or not it's legal. Drivers, cyclists, and pedestrians need to be able to make reasonable assumptions about other vehicles on the road. Whether cyclists should be required to stop at stop signs or not is debatable, but I'm not ok with the police deciding which laws they want to enforce. Enforcing the actual law is the whole point of their job.

This whole debate has become toxic.