(Tedious disclaimer: my opinion only, not speaking for anybody else. I'm an SRE at Google.)

You did not have a phone screen. What you are describing is the initial contact with a recruiter, to establish what roles you're interested in, explain how the process works, and arrange dates. Had you proceeded past this, you would probably have had a phone screen next, which would be with an engineer giving you a technical problem to solve.

I also rated myself 4-6 on most categories, and was hired; that's an entirely reasonable score on the scale they give. I don't know what happened in your conversation with the recruiter, but it sounds like you made it clear you weren't interested and that was the end of it.