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I think some guys are completely delusional about their looks. I've had morbidly obese guys hit on me when I'm a fit woman. I've also specified in my profile that I like to exercise and am looking for someone who is in shape. I also think somehow my attractiveness isn't coming out as well in photos as it is in person. At least that's what my friends have told me but maybe they're lying.

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Maybe your face is just uglier than you think? :)

Just kidding. I have the same experience as a man. I'm no George Clooney, but I have all of my teeth and consider myself to be "average" looking. That said, I get messages from women who are very unattractive to me (morbidly obese is common).

But I can't knock them for it. Maybe the girls that I message are saying the exact same thing about me. Who knows.

The problem is that there's basically nothing to lose by sending someone a message.

Well the thing is I specify in my profile the body type that I am looking for which is not obese or morbidly obese since I like to exercise and it's important to me. When emailing guys at least I look at their preferences and only email if I meet those preferences. I think online dating should offer better message filtering so those people don't get to our inbox.And some guys lie about their body type as when I see their photos they say they're athletic and toned when they're morbidly obese.

People don't read the directions on the over the counter medications they're taking, so don't be surprised if there are people sending you messages who haven't bothered to read your profile.

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