the car has so much software on board but isnt it personalized so that when my daughter is driving the car she cant get faster that e.g. 30mph?
Or would this be to obvious?
I think the problem here is not with the car, but with the fact that you can't trust your daughter to be a responsible driver - which means she shouldn't be on the road in the first place.
No product manager can plan for such lack of discretion.