Your attempt at "humanizing" the situation is merely being dismissive of the values of others' lives.
Everyone who dies is special and important to someone. To wring your hands and rail against utilitarianism is to try and apply tribalism to moral reasoning.
Because this person matters more TO YOU, you're suggesting that we should treat them as if they matter MORE THAN OTHER PEOPLE.
That seems to me an intrinsically selfish -- possibly even narcissistic -- view.