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Thanks, hopefully that's the stage we're getting to. My wife hung posters on the walls with exercises to help him calm down and I've been quitting work early to be able to spend more 1-on-1 time with him in the afternoons.

What incentives worked for you? We've tried the points/sticker chart thing without any luck (allowing him to redeem his points for audio books, tv shows, treats, and even Dave and Buster's if he saved up a lot).

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Motivating factors are different for everyone so find what ticks his boxes.

We had a chart of 7 faces which could be happy or sad, one per day for a week, that he fills in at the end of each day. He gets a warning when he first starts to act up then a sad face if he carries on. All smiley faces means a small toy at the weekend.

Filling in the chart some long time after the behaviour was important as it allowed for calm(er) reflection on the consequences of bad behaviour.

It took a couple of weeks to see an improvement but over all has worked really well for us.

Sounds like a great idea. We've tried the point chart but haven't tried to capture his behavior over time in a way that's visible to him.

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