unconscious behavior like this made me lose much of the respect I had for women (and I started with lots of it!). the better I knew them the worse it got. sheepish mentality, playing all kinds of weird mind games all the time, frequent need of assurance of attractiveness and constant looking in the mirrors, never fully saying what they think directly to the person/man, and the list goes on and on (really, damn too long).
once I stopped treating my partners as fully equals and started to be the dominant person in the relationship (this doesn't mean being an ahole, just a confident partner and a bit more), things started to be much better.
women need THE man, alpha male, to gently/firmly dominate them. truly dominant ones ie successful in manager positions have usually just a string of failed relationships, since their partners are either less dominant -> submissive, and that doesn't breed much respect in relationship long term, or they are even more dominant which means usually pretty horrible persons and constant fights over nothing. Infrequent exceptions that work are just that, exceptions.
Just to clarify - I don't have an experience with shallow and 'not-so-clever' ones where this behaviour is more pronounced, rather doctors, stock traders, cellular researchers, managers etc.
just my 2 cents, I hope YMMV significantly :)