> How is forcing someone to do something they dont want to do, not 'controlling'?
I think you've basically made my point. According to your definition, handcuffing a woman to prevent her from murdering an innocent adult with an axe is also 'controlling' her body. I hope you'd agree that is an acceptable use of force in order to protect a life.
Now re-read radmuzom's comment and I think you'll see the absurdity of his comparison, which is what I wanted to point out.