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Is it okay for a good man to ruin her future?

Since you know a lot about short-sightedness, can you comment on whether it's short-sighted to correct a stranger's family's advice based on your guesses of their experiences?

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Re-frame the context hypothetically, using race instead of gender, and then tell me if you still feel that what you're saying is fair.

That takes a bit of work, since the context is that she's expected to marry a man, but she's not expected to marry someone of any particular race. However, in cultures where you have an expectation to marry within your race, it'd be fair. I come from one of these cultures, and I find a lot of what my family tells me about race and dating to be reprehensible, but if they were to say something like this about the race that we all are and that I'm semi-expected to marry within, it would be very different from when they stereotype other races.

How about "Don't ruin your future"? It doesn't matter what the cause is: "man", "good man", "purple man", "flesh-eating bacteria", etc.

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