Comment by limelight | Hacker News Reader

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I don't understand how anyone could be unsure about that being harassment. It's about as clear-cut as you can get.

He should have been fired the day that surfaced. If someone who worked for me ever did something like that, they'd be out the door pronto. It speaks volumes that he wasn't, to the point which I am irrationally tempted to doubt the veracity of her claims.

Don't proposition anyone in your reporting chain. Don't flirt with them. Don't do anything with them. It's really not that complicated. If you are attracted to someone who works for you (it happens), do the adult thing and ignore it.

It's hard to just ignore feelings. You'll have biases. It'll show. (Eventually.)

Talk to HR (or your boss), get them (or you) a new team/manager.

Or if the feelings go away, then great, crisis averted, but it's rarely that simple.

That's not always possible (especially in a small startup) and I'd argue it's not fair to force them to change teams.

I also disagree with the notion that it'll show eventually. Usually if you consciously suppress them they'll go away pretty quickly.

  > do the adult thing and ignore it.

While it probably the best advice it does sound a bit like pope's advice for the gay people: it is ok, if you do not act on it. Being unhappy is just an adult thing, I guess.

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