It may still be wrong and offensive, but at least in the case of the government it is a self policing body that in-principle answers to the US citizenry. There is no comparable (non-supernatural) relationship between all Muslims.
I'm willing to bet that no one voted for President Obama specifically because he wanted to use drones to kill suspected terrorists without attempting to arrest them first. He came up with that idea on his own. Saying the US citizens are involved with that decision is, again, wrong and offensive.
How's that defense working for an ISIS funder?
"Oh, I didn't send the money for bombs, I sent it for their work with children..."