Simple solution: Move
There are plenty of great software developer jobs in major cities paying 130K+ where the cost of living is a lot lower.
There are plenty of great software developer jobs in major cities paying 130K+ where the cost of living is a lot lower.
I miss very few things about SF besides the weather, and if I missed it that much I would move to SoCal. The quality of life does not match the price.
Regardless, my take home pay stayed the same, and my rent went way down for a house instead of an apartment. My only regret is that I stayed in SF as long as I did.