Thank you for sharing your story. Last year, I and my wife deliberately decided to minimize applications to schools with my kid who seems to have similar social/academic tendency as your first one. We applied one school where such kids could also be thriving, and ended up not getting accepted. She would need to go to a school this year, and within a year, my kid became much more mature than a year before, and we & people around her think the delay was probably good for her. Just wanted to add my anecdote.