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> It is a cash bar, so please bring sufficient money with you as there is no nearby cash machine.

Are guests expected to purchase their own alcohol at their wedding?

In the UK the parents of the bride pay for a full formal sit-down meal with wine and champagne, and then guests pay for drinks after that.

British weddings start around 1 or 2pm, while US weddings are just the evening. A full day with an open bar would be insane.

This is what would be expected in the UK, so nobody would be upset about it.

I think the author is in the UK where I believe cash bars at weddings are more socially acceptable.

I've been to a few weddings here in Canada with cash bars. Some people really frown on it, but it's not a big deal to me. Some people just can't afford it.

would not be then better to have smaller wedding with amount of guests one can afford without asking them to pay for food or drinks? it's very odd idea for me to invite me somewhere and then expect i will pay, of course i can give some gift to couple, but expecting hard cash at bar or waiter, sorry but I'm that case i will rather go to normal restaurant of my choice and pass on such wedding

In some cultures+locations, alcoholism is so rampant and alcohol so expensive that it's unreasonable for the host to pay for it.

If you're so alcoholic that you can't attend a single meal without being served unlimited alcohol, you should understand that.

what? just put bottles on tables and let guests manage sharing it and when they run out of bottles bad luck

wow, something i hear first time, it would be scandal in my country or country of my wife to ask guests to pay for anything, though in China is pretty much mandatory to give red envelope containing money at entrance pretty much as ticket, people even keep databases for future weddings do they won't pay too much more or less than they got

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