Thanks for being honest. Currently the west is pretty much attempting to eliminate gender. The problem is, humans are biologically not much different than they were 1000 years ago. So while there are these high ideals about a basically gender neutral society, the reality is that it does not, and in fact cannot exist. Currently we are in a weird time in history where people do not understand that there is a very good reason why every single advanced species has 2 genders. If it was not incredibly helpful to have 2 distinct genders, why would it be so prevalent in nature? Having two genders is a wonderful thing, and leads to incredible efficiency through separation of labor. Unfortunately I get downvoted for stating the obvious here on hacker news. However, look at the stats, and you will find that feminism has lead to more money and power for women, but much less happiness for both men and women. You are a great example. You would be happier if you could just focus on code instead of thinking about women. But no, we just have to have gender integration, with women who try to make themselves look sexy every day, then complain if somebody is attacted to them. Neither you nor them are happy about the situation. But "society" is. Hopefully one day people will wake up. But I doubt it will happen soon.