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I don't agree that jerks are people who don't care about other people's individual circumstances. Jerks are people who think that everyone else is a jerk, which is how they excuse their behaviour.

It's not that they don't care why the waiter messed up their order, it's that they think the waiter messed up because they're a jerk.

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I think Bender said it best:

"Yeah, but everyone's a jerk. You, me, this jerk. That's my philosophy."

Sounds like a narrow application of the fundamental attribution bias. Not sure that explains everything, but I'd bet it plays a big part.

When my wife was teaching preschool, she said the kids who caused the most trouble also felt that many things other people were doing things deliberately to upset them. It was kind of a reverse of Hanlon's Razor.

Perhaps them thinking everyone is a jerk is a side effect of their narcissism.

This strikes me as circular.

Your comment strikes me as circular.

> the waiter messed up because they're a jerk

That's a subordinate clause where "jerk" is referring to the waiter, not the main subject, hence it's not circular.

And people think singular "they" is OK in writing.

Try:

the waiter messed up because he's a jerk.

"They" is generally accepted as a singular gender neutral pronoun.

And has been since the Canterbury Tales! It's a modern development that it isn't considered "correct" English.

600 years is long enough for me

That's not a unique problem of they:

"The man shoved the waiter because he was in his way."

Pronouns only have a few bits of information, everything else has to be inferred from context. (A big problem in natural language processing.)

This doesn't do anything at all to resolve the ambiguity in this sentence.

If this is such a problem, do you think it's a problem too that English doesn't distinguish between singular and plural you?

Here's a short review on the use of the singular "they". It is OK. https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/singular-nonbi...

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