In America, the "bourgeois" is usually called "The American Dream". Most Americans idealize the middle class income and middle-class lifestyle and middle-class families and middle-class values. Ranting against that is usually a non-starter.
> my wife's parents suffered greatly in China by having their property taken from them
Many people were killed in China, of starvation, political punishment, etc. It should be an object lesson to the world, don't turn your government over to a corrupt dictatorship, even if they promise you communism.