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This works very well for low-grade depression for sure. There seems to be a threshold where this type of intervention becomes completely ineffective (personal experience).

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I agree. From keeping logs over the last few years, severe depression was more likely to occur due to e.g. not enough sleep or just illness, and in those cases accomplishments were impossible. Rest was it, and I felt lucky if I could get good rest before acting on any depressing thoughts or ruminations. So I wouldn't call goal-reaching a standalone cure; far from it. Also there's the fact that people accept/reject potentially helpful information based on different criteria, from very rational (is it in a reputable journal) to irrational (do I like the person who gave the information) to incredibly subjective (did I think of it on my own?). So the idea of "why not try accomplishment" may be doomed from the start, due to factors outside of the advisor's control.

I noticed that rest only somewhat helped, but was significantly more effective if absent of any worry of external responsibilities. E.g. If I took vacation from work and didn’t tell my girlfriend about it so she wouldn’t worry about me and text me incessantly... I could turn off the thoughts/worries of the outside world completely for a few days and that made a pretty dramatic difference. I didn’t cure me at all, but it took me out of the really dangerous zone after about 2 days. Also, sleeping in a hammock, haha. So much better than breathing stale air for 2 days.

This is more circumstantial however, as my trigger at the time was accumulating too many perceived responsibilities and fearing failure. To be honest I feel the triggers are nearly irrelevant, but removing myself from them gives me enough temporary relief for my body to get out of stress mode. Which in turn removes some of the depressive overhead to give myself a golden window of opportunity.

Absolutely, but don't let this caveat stop you from considering this sort of advice if your depression has crossed that threshold. For those of us who have been there it's little strategies like this that keep us from crossing that threshold for too long.

As someone who’s been there, these tricks and tips make things worse, not better. Most depression advice is pretty terrible, this thread included.

My point is that people have to figure out what helps themselves. All of the terrible advice amounts to knowing there are people who have learned to manage themselves and therefore most people can learn to manage themselves.

Fair point. I like this view. Seeing all the anecdotal ways people have gotten themselves out of severe episodes may not work for the person seeking help, but it may give them enough hope to keep looking for the next approach before calling it quits for good.

Don’t really think there are that many. The vast majority are some form of “work out, eat healthy, ...”

I agree. It's clear from this thread (and it fits with my experience as well) that the usual advice only goes so far, and for obvious reasons: if I had enough energy, motivation, and discipline to work out, eat healthy, meditate, whatever -- all the standard advice for lifting my mood -- I wouldn't be depressed!

I've been wondering lately if there isn't a model of care that goes beyond just a psychiatrist (to prescribe the meds) and a therapist (to administer therapy along with the standard advice about exercise and eating well). Something more like a "nanny" or a caretaker who could help the patient with those things: bug the patient daily to make sure they're taking their meds (and/or supplements, if you're going that route); buy and cook that nice healthy food; get you out of the house and into the gym; etc. Something more than just seeing a therapist once a week, but less intensive than any form of institutional care (even on an outpatient basis).

Asking for a friend... :(

Personally decided the advice isn’t helpful at all for me and am trying other things. Talking to my mom helps some. Lots of things for me to figure out still though. Not very hopeful.

Maybe it’s more fair to say that much of the advice is unhelpful for many sufferers, but for those it does help, it’s a good toolkit to have.

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