Boys behave differently around girls and will form weaker bonds with each other.
Boys grow up to be providers and need to be pushed hard because life is hard on them.
Men's income forms the largest tax base. The average man provides a net positive return on tax base whereas women a net negative in North America.
Men are disproportionately representing in:
- Wars, army (98%)
- Suicides
- Occupational death and injury
- On average tend to work longer hours
- Die many years younger lofe expectancy
- Hard, but important jobs like coal mining, drilling, construction, etc)
There are almost as many rapes of boys and men as there are girls and women each year.
I dare you to dig through and find the stata yourself and when you understand why these stats are buried, you will start to see what we have been tricked into.
For example people have tried to "treat" crime by chemically castrate violent criminal, but it did not work. Researchers expected an increase in testosterone levels to inevitably lead to more aggression, and this didn't reliably occur. Only at levels far above normal variance (roid rage) can such effect be measure, and you need either a medical condition or injections to have that occur. Research about testosterone and aggression indicates that there's only a weak connection between the two, and when aggression is more narrowly defined as simple physical violence the connection all but disappears. In fact, in a study of men castrated to calm them down, nine out of sixteen died as a result of aggressive encounters.
Testosterone does have an effect on inter-sex competition, such as tendency to seek social rank and dominance. If one consider a function of testosterone is reproduction, this make sense. A high social ranked male in say a baboon group will have better reproductive success than other males, but a indiscriminate violent male won't. Interestingly, testosterone also increase after gaining ranks (such as winning contest), implying that the body is "telling" itself that it should focus more on reproduction because of the new increased chance.
A group of boys will compete for social ranking, but so will girls. If school yards has anything to show it is that kids of both gender need to learn to harness and focus that energy into cooperation and self-improvement.
Couldn't we promote this 'aggressive' ideology as genderless? As long as we're clear about the Boy Scouts' ideal member (aggressive), nothing will be disrupted, as only boys and girls who fit and enjoy that environment will choose to join.
I also really enjoy outdoor adventuring, like many of the activities provided by Scouts. Is it because I'm aggressive? No, it's because I enjoy the calm and serenity that the outdoors provides.
In an ideal world that might work, but it seems like everywhere that makes gender inclusivity a priority always ends up losing its masculine traits. I just don't see why there can't be some boys-only organizations and girls-only organizations anymore.
We should aim to promote gender inclusivity, but not stigmatize traditional gender mindsets, i.e. 'aggressiveness', as negative in the process. If an institution starts accepting females and then (oftentimes purposely) loses that common mindset, it simply reinforces gender stereotypes.
I have a serious question, and this arises from my mentality that we should be accepting of aberrations from the norm, but that doesn't mean we should hurt the majority in the process.
Why are gender stereotypes bad? If we understand that men and women are different overall, and that those differences lead to a bimodal distribution with gender traits something like this[1], then wouldn't stereotypes naturally emerge? Should we be punishing behavior that large chunks of people align to?
[1] https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-YMOXSZ4aTmg/Vwf79cRcjOI/AAAAAAAAO...
There's also the non-scientific stereotypes. "Girls are worse at math" for example.
In regards to gender stereotypes: children are very impressionable, and we should encourage the ideology that people of either gender can have any combination of personality traits, interests, and so on. If gender stereotypes are naturally disassembled to an extent, I think the world would be a somewhat better place.
The only point of contention I have is when people begin to associate the personalities involved in gender stereotypes with the negative connotation of gender stereotypes, and thus discourage those personalities. We shouldn't try to remove all gender stereotypes with punishment, as you said; some are natural. We should just aim to remove restrictions on personalities as much as possible, and see what the effects are.