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Your lack of experience does not matter, in this conversation: your comment reads as a victim-blaming apology for state violence.

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Bullshit. The comment started with "I'm curious..." I am curious as well, because as I try to be empathetic, it is difficult because I cannot create a scenario in my mind where a cop asks about my gender. So instead of just blowing it off as "$DISPARAGING_WORD_FOR_TRANS's had it coming" or whatever an unsympathetic phrasing would be, I'd rather be sympathetic by asking, "help me out here, how do the difficulties that you face (that I apparently don't) play out?"

But you call that "victim blaming". It's one of the reasons we don't get nice things.

There are a lot of people who want to be the heroes of transsexuals because we are the topic of the moment. They twist words around or exaggerate, like this undue accusation of violence when I described comments/questions/looks and nothing physical. Those people do not speak for me.

That said, there are other people in my situation who have suffered actual violence, not just harsh looks and words.

There are a lot of people who want to be the heroes of transsexuals

Thank you for a more charitable view of the comment to which I replied.

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