I removed all those behaviors from the touch bar after I accidentally triggered Siri for the thousandth time. Doing that means the touch bar is black most of the time but has made the keyboard easier to live with.
The sad part is, I completely agree. I purchased a 15” MBP in May and I finally gave up a couple weeks ago. My wife now uses it to play the Sims, while I switched back to my Dell XPS. She doesn’t seem to mind the touch bar, so maybe it’s how I rest my hands. She hates the keyboard too, though.