I understand your frustration, but I have little sympathy. Most of us who aren't white males have never had the luxury of not having to think about white males. Our success is largely contingent on understanding the dominant culture of the circles of power. It is, indeed, tiresome to have to do so.

Now I'm not saying life is easy for the white male. I know it's not. We all know the vast majority of white males aren't basking in wealth and power. I'm simply saying, look how exclusive the top is to those who aren't white and male, and for all the challenges the composite white male faces in navigating the world, the composite person who is not white male that has those, plus the mechanisms that filter us out the higher we rise.

I'm not asking you to cry for me. I don't need it. I wrote the above in full recognition that if you remove the white part, as a male, I'm in the in group. I try to understand the advantages I have as a guy, a heterosexual, an American, and a person who was born well off, and I try to advocate for those that don't have those advantages.