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Disagree.

I am around your age, and my 10 year reunion had its own domain name and website (still up - not sure who is paying for it or hosting), but my most recent reunion (20 year) was only on Facebook, and since I have never had a Facebook account, I did not find out until about a week beforehand (second-hand from a friend who was not attending).

Please be aware, this is a cohort that has mostly been together since elementary/middle school, learned Logowriter together, and had an HTML CD-ROM yearbook.

Facebook has made everybody lazy and cheapened our relationships.

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How were people supposed to find about your domain name and website? How would you reach those who changed emails?

How does lack of domain and website cheapens relationships?

There used to be these things called search engines, and we would be able to type the name of the school and the year we graduated, and the site would be one of the first results.

The domain was named to indicate it was reunion related.

If you couldn't find somebody's email address, you emailed their friend, or called them, and asked, "Do you know how I can get int touch with so and so...?"

YOU WOULD NEED TO COMMUNICATE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN TO OBTAIN INFORMATION.

But now, if it takes any effort to communicate with somebody, it doesn't happen.

Only the easy communication...and there is not much substance to it (bullshit small-talk or just posting links).

I’m not sure what you’re trying to argue here. So your value proposition is to make it harder to organize events and find out what’s going on?

I am not happy where we are as a society.

The "easy-ness" diminishes the quality of interaction.

Are you the person that went through all that hunting and enjoyed the process or rather other people spent their evening by that work?

Facebook is killing communication and friendship much less then 80 hours a week work schedule combined with long commute and with people changing jobs every 2 years on average. And maybe add to it nearly complete isolation after people have children. If any moment not spend with work or personal project is considered lazy, relationships have to go away.

> The "easy-ness" diminishes the quality of interaction.

For you, maybe. For me and others, it makes it easier to organize events and coordinate meetings with friends. Why do you assume your experience is universal? It might be a problem in your circle, but that doesn’t mean it is in everyone else’s.

This is the reason i joined Facebook in the first place. I was at graduate school, and had a decent social life with some of the other students. Then a few of them got Facebook, and started using that to organise parties. After i missed a couple, for no reason other than that i wasn't on Facebook and the people organising them were some combination of lazy and scatterbrained, i joined.

I did that in part because i didn't want a repeat of the experience i had with LiveJournal as an undergraduate, where conversation and organisation that had been happening in university newsgroups suddenly evacuated to LJ and left me on my own.

(I don't think these moves were deliberate attempts to avoid me. I'm still good friends with all these people decades later, and they really would have found a way to shake me by now.)

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