Haven't got a diagnosis myself but I tick a lot of boxes for mild autism and a few articles I read about it 5 years ago (31 at that time) made me realize it's a pretty good explanation for me. I'm not surprised that women are diagnosed less, they are integrated into the social web of family and friends a lot better and from early on. I'm pretty sure I didn't have even a 10th of the social interactions my little daughter has. If only I could remember more than 10 things from my childhood.

On quote from the article that I find heartbreaking is this one:

> I’ve watched people carefully and studied psychology to degree level to get me to the point where I can now act quite naturally.

Acting to appear normal, I can do this for a few hours (assuming they serve a social lubricant ;), but put me in a room with small kids, parents and bad acoustic and I need to get out after an hour. My wife's not helping in such situations, actually is embarrassed by my reserved behaviour and inability to connect. She knows that I think I'm an aspie but held it against me so often, that I wish I hadn't told her. She even complains about me not looking in her eyes when she talks, despite know that I'm not wired to do that. On the other hand, no one before pointed that out to me.

What's the point of a diagnosis at 36 when all I'd do with it is show it people who wouldn't believe me otherwise?