If you're making an emergency stop, that is, you need to stop fifteen seconds ago, then yes, you're better off just slamming the breaks and letting the ABS do its thing. If you are not a highly trained stunt driver, I'd bet that its better at not locking the wheels then you are.
If you have more time then that, feel free to do a controlled brake and coast to a stop.
Regarding the learning to drive: I'd highly recommend taking your daily driving car to a defensive driving type course that includes a skid pan. That way you can experience what your car feels like during an emergency break, with ABS, during hydroplaning in a safe environment. This is something that could literally save your life, because you won't be surprised by how your car feels when it happens on the road.