Who do you find in gatherings where people have gotten together to escape reality in one form or the other?

I'd rather meet people that have similar (and what I consider positive and realistic) goals and outlooks or not meet at all.

I'm not bashing religion (or alcohol) either. I'm entirely ok with both in moderation but I won't be a regular at places either is the central focus because it attracts people who are not what I'm looking for.