You're not wrong. But when the alternative is their platforms being used to spread misinformation and hate, there's not really many other options.
Here's the difference: Alex Jones can go create his own video site easily, but he can't create his own worldwide ISP.
People have to take action and opt in to watching something on YouTube. They have a choice. If people don't want to hear someone they never have to.
Youtube doesn't provide the means for publishers to interrupt what you are currently watching (well there's ads but that's a bit different as ads have increase scrutiny).
And if he used an existing infrastructure like AWS, I would hope AWS would kick him off of it.
If they would manage their brand as well as Apple, people would probably praise the end of net neutrality.