If you are interested in an opposite opinion from another woman coder: https://medium.com/@marlene.jaeckel/the-empress-has-no-cloth...
Reality looks very different.
Women have a 2:1 chance over men to get a job in STEM: https://www.mindingthecampus.org/2015/11/04/women-favored-2-...
more detailed research on this: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4611984/
Then there's the Scandinavian gender paradox, which states that women are LESS likely to choose a career in STEM the more equal society becomes. This is because there's no more economic necessity, and other reasons. See http://www.thejournal.ie/gender-equality-countries-stem-girl...
I'm not surprised by the responses of these women. They represent the acceptable opinion of Silicon Valley.