0) Keeping one's mouth shut. Trying to not have an opinion until a) having enough information b) only voicing it if it is important. I am trying to spend more time perceiving instead of broadcasting.
This is in stark contrast to the workplace where I've experienced that keeping my mouth shut in a meeting to gather my thoughts before contributing a well informed opinion, the loudest person in the room has already spoken a handful of times and left their mark and then continues to speak over people and dominate the conversation for better or worse (usually the latter unless they are a SME).
I'm then forced to revert to speaking ASAP to get a word in so I don't walk away from a meeting being perceived as contributing little cause I was getting enough words.
Maybe it's all in my head cause I'm an introvert and meetings drain my energy. Anyone else experience this? Got any tips?
Sometimes. Some things i do to ensure correct question-answer contexts:
- When in a meeting with (loud person pushing) wrong answers, ask the right questions.
- People dont understand the answer if they dont understand the question.
- Use the above to give the obvious correct solution within their context.
Watch women and men in a meeting, men will talk over people, interject wisdoms, either comments or questions. While women will sit back and let the questions get answered, and then when enough time will go by will ask the unaswered questions.
One of the hardest things for a group to do is leave enough dead air so that others can speak, esp over remote connections.
"The greatest form of knowledge is, on occasion, not to know, or to affect not to know."
"precher le faux" as they say in France