Expectations: I agree with you here. I'm stubborn and want to surround myself with people who do meet these expectations. I'm ok with interacting with people who don't meet these expectations but I want limited interaction as it will inevitably lead a disconnect in the relationship. Previous experiences where I surrounded myself with people who didn't care proved stressful and impacted my health (this was prior to treatment which has helped substantially with patience).
Disability: From what I've researched, It's a long process. I keep hoping I'll figure out a solution before then as I rather earn my living through my work.
Workplace toxicity: 100% agree. I use to go along with BS in the hiring process but have learned to trust my gut during the first few conversations. I feel intense anxiety at the thought of entering into another toxic workplace.
"Remember this always: this world isn't meant for us." - My favorite line of your comment. I've experienced BP since early teenage years (didn't know it at the time). I isolated myself for a long time only venturing out when things were manageable to keep a perceived peace in social relationships.