alnar is likely referring to the US system, or something like it: unless you are tutored externally (rich), an autodidact outlier (gifted), or selected for honors courses, you basically take computational courses for 14 years (with one cursory stop for euclidean geometry) and are then thrown into proofs at the age of 19-20, if at all. it's widely recognized as a problem in the math pipeline, which is why many US universities have "transition" courses for non-honors students.

so it's not that the basics are intellectually difficult as much as practically difficult (unfamiliar, disorienting) for many students. many "transition" books talk about the difficulty in adjusting from talent being redefined from perfectionist "plug and chug" (APs, SATs) to reasoning and creativity.

btw, i'm impressed that you could master college-level proofs at 10. i have a kid about that age who is pretty good at logical reasoning, but i'm not sure what topic (at that level) he could do a rigorous proof about; maybe numbers, as in landau? can you say more about the materials you used?