Such a way to raise children does not seem to leave much room to flexibility and creativity. Children should learn to adapt in a moving and not completely defined environment anyway.
Also, are they able to cope with someone who sees things as (unspoken) agreements instead of (strict) rules?
And I feel if parents can pay for their children's studies, this is an opportunity to take. Life is easy when you can! At the beggining of your life it's difficult to get good money, so you struggle, but at the time your children goes to college, you may have a good income. So instead of paying your studies, you pay for your children's and they will do the same for theirs. Same amounts, a lot easier. Life is not meant to be hard (Granted it works best with fewer children). (Maybe it is not meant at all anyway but this is another question)
Anyway, it seems the children are doing well so if it works for them, great (we only have the point of view of the father - why "I" and not "we" in the title by the way?)
By contrast, my father came from a much laxer 5 child family, and was the only one who went to university. I can't imagine how anyone would manage with 12.
> My wife and I are religious and members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints [...]
> With no religious upbringing, [children] have no way to measure the goodness of other organizations, as they have no foundation.
> They participated in the religious activities: we were the parents, they did not have a choice.
[1]: https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-y...
12 is a lot. Like a lot.
[1]: https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-y...