I remember the thing we used to do before this always-on-internet-in-your-pocket epoch.
Vocal communication.
Both more spontaneous and edited by fewer humans (zero in fact), it was also unrecorded and subject to interpretation by both parties.
Perhaps hell is the surveillance system we live in where a small misstep can be broadcast endlessly, or even changed or quoted out of context.
What we need here is to take a step back.
We are all human.
We are all fallible.
We are all changing and learning.
Allow those around you to make mistakes, and for the sake of all of us, allow people to move on.
I edited this message about a dozen times and it's still not right. I don't care.