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> For years I’ve had a silent policy that I won’t go on any of his shows. I’ve turned down or ignored multiple invitations. I’m making that policy un-silent now.

It is an important, general point that staying "neutral" when seeing a bullying situation is actually tantamount to siding with the bully.

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The hard part is deciding who's the bully, since both sides invariably claim (as they did in this case) that they're the one being bullied. Neutrality isn't a claim that bullying is acceptable, just that you don't have the time to figure out who's the real bully or whether the person being bullied deserves it.

I mean, when one of them admits to bullying just for the sake of pissing the other party off, I feel like we can determine who the real bully is.

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