Not really, no. Weapons manufacturers, as despicable some of them are, do not set out or actively help murder civilians and journalists. Some of them might have in the past, but those are criminals, first and foremost, just as NGO as a bunch of criminals in my humble opinion.

>My wife is in finance, it was this or an abusive boss and constant unpaid overtime.

Or not working at all, considering you are so "privileged". Or working for some NGO, probono even, if it's about finding meaning in life and not about paying the bills. Or working as a walmart greeter or meter maid or orderly in a hospital. I'd rather work my really shit orderly job I used to work years ago, than work for scum like NSO.

Given she works in finance, she sounds educated enough and privileged enough to find a nice job that does not involve deliberately targeting and killing civilians. Maybe less "prestigious" or paying less, but still enough to make a nice living on your double income.

I am not buying your excuse, even tho you and your wife might be buying it yourself. Rationalization can be a problem.